Mª Esther Costa (Holistic therapist and Tibetan Reiki Usui master)
It is a therapy method of resolution and healing that is focused on searching for the origin and the solution for conflicts within the system. It is a tool that connects us with our Family System and helps us heal both ourselves and our family. Family system: it is the combination of all the people who belong to a family by blood ties.
Those who are, those who were and those who will be, not excluding anyone. If someone is excluded, a disorder appears and it alters the system, which unconsciously makes one member of the family take upon themselves an invisible loyalty, the representation and the weight of the imbalance, that manifests itself in the way of conflict, illness, etc., as an individual, family, group or social pathology. Who developed this method? It was developed by a German man, Bert Hellinger, in his search for a solution to human suffering.
During the past century, many interesting and successful psychotherapy techniques were developed, which were used to search for a solution to this suffering. After many years of studies, M. Hellinger realised that a patient who was following any kind of therapy, was improving a lot with the tools of emotional management that the therapist was proposing, as well as the great professional work; as time went on, some patients came back because they were finding themselves in the same situations as before that were related to their Family System.
Slowly, he developed the Systemic Family Constellations, which he worked on together with the person, their own family and their system. All the system: those who are, those who were and those who will be. Finally, the model of Systemic Family Constellations was born from the result of the course of a lifetime, the experiences with various disciplines of Bert Hellinger, bringing the understandings of his peculiar manner of focussing and offering solutions to conflicts. In my quest of understanding and being able to heal, I found this marvellous therapy that helped me most and my family as well, to understand the reason for some situations and to recognise some symptoms that had already disappeared or were disappearing from our lives.